Reason to believe again on your relationship

I’ve been reading some of the articles on your web site and thought I would take a chance here.  My wife and I are in the process of getting a divorce. She is divorcing me because she claims she fell out of love with me and no longer wants to be tied down. We have 2 children ages 8 and 10.  Next week the kids are off from school for the week because of vacation. I took the week off to be with them.

The problem for me is I have to spend the majority of my time with them at my old house that I lived in with my wife and kids. I’ll be losing the home in the divorce and it hurts to stay there with the kids. I live with my father at the moment and he just doesn’t really have the room for me to take them for the entire week. My wife and I talk quite a bit about things and she is the only one that wants the divorce. I’m trying to figure out ways to be able to make the marriage still work but feel like I am fighting a losing battle. I’m hoping maybe with me being back at the house even temporarily that it may bring back some feelings for her. As I said, she just doesn’t want to be married but I can’t come up with any arguments for her to want to stay. We still have to deal with each other constantly because of the kids. What can I do to give her reason to believe in us again?

We are at the point right now where we will probably have to sell the home because neither of us can come up with enough to buy the other out of the equity in the house.  I’m torn. Part of me says why try and stay with someone that clearly doesn’t want me anymore? She claims there was never that crazy in love feeling. Yet she still wants to have sex with me on occasion and do things together with her and the kids. I did love her but now I’m like what am I fighting for anymore. Losing the house, her and the security of family life that I charish so much.

Yet there is something inside of me that wants this to work out. We’ve been discussing the relationship but she’s been pretty much content to be on her own. I can see why because I spend Tuesday night, Wednesday night, and Friday thru Saturday with the kids. I pay half of my take home pay to the household to help support her and the kids and the dogs. Plus I still have to pay for where I am staying at. She doesn’t want to lose the house and disrupt the kids anymore than they already have been but my stance on that is the kids have already been disrupted and its better to change things drastically for them now than when they get older and can’t deal with the changes as well. She won’t do counseling cause she doesn’t believe in it and I am at a loss for what to do. I don’t want to stay where I’m not wanted and I don’t feel I should lose out on everything I have worked for in the last ten + years just to make her happy and make her decision to divorce easier on her. I’m not trying to hurt the kids so how do I protect myself and them at the same time?